Wedding Bells

Hello people!

Last Sunday, I went to the “Lux Wedding Experience” (www.luxwedding.lu) with one of my best friends. As she is getting married in 2016, and as I am one of her bridesmaids (*proud*), we wanted to visit this place, because there is nothing bad about getting some new ideas!

We met a lot of interesting people. 

These were my favorites:

Cakebox:

Cakebox! what an awesome design! so beautiful and so delicious!

I LOVE CAKEBOX!! (www.cakebox.lu) This has to be said! I love their super duper beautiful cakes! They taste DELICIOUS! We had the amazing opportunity to try the chocolate-cream cheesecake, and guys…I ate 2 big slices…I couldn’t resist! …I think that says enough about the taste :D

your Bartender:

Cool guy and awesome cocktails! Your Bartender! 

Valéry MENDES (www.yourbartender.lu) got this awesome idea to offer people the best cocktails for every occasion possible: weddings, private parties, birthdays etc. As we had the possibility to taste them, the only thing I can say is…AWESOME!

He is a very cool and open-minded guy! If you want to make your party a little bit more special, he is your man.

Sylvain JUZAN, the Magician:

we had a lot of fun with you, thank you Mister Magician :)

He was very fun! He showed us some tricks and we were very amazed! It was magical :D. If you want someone to make your party “magically unforgettable”, he is the right guy for you!(www.sylvainjuzan-magicien.com)

Make-Up & Hair: Valentina BECKER:

great Products, awesome job and a sweet person! 

She is one amazing Make-up artist! We had the opportunity to try out some make-up styles: my friend Ana got a simple nude make-up (as she is not someone who likes make-up, this was a big deal for her) and I got some really badass Smokey Eyes. We were both really satisfied. Valentina is a very nice and sweet person.

We met a woman for whose wedding Valentina was booked as a Make-up Artist, and she was 100% satisfied with her work. For more information, visit her page (www.valentinabecker.com)

Luxzelte:

What a beautiful interior! 

Project Manager Dominique SOARES FONESCA (www.luxzelte.lu ) told us that they are working on an international base (but you have to pay for the transport, which is really plausible and fair if you are organizing you wedding in another country). They are not only responsible for the tent but also for the equipment (chairs, decoration etc.). I was very pleased by this one stylish interior you see in the picture!


Vehicles:

Really nice cars and some awesome busses!

If you want to rent some historical/old cars for your event (weddings, party events, trips), then visit www.oldtimerbus.lu. They have some really special cars and busses! Personnaly I think that every wedding needs an oltimer! It's simply an eye-catcher!

So those were my favorites! I hope you liked them too!

I wish you a very sunny afternoon my urbanicious val-mily!

xoxo 

Mati <3

Blabbermouth and Tattletales

“Gossip is shared by the misinformed, who often sound like fools, while creating outgoing drama and disorder.” – Ty Howard

Disney is always right! let them talk, live your
life! What goes round comes all the way back around!

Sometimes we do things we wish we had never done and sometimes we wish we could repeat them. But in the end, all those things determine who we are and form our personality. It’s your personality; so don’t let others judge over you. Don’t worry what they say behind your back. Those people will always find problems and faults in YOUR life instead of fixing their own.

(c) pinterest

What people are not aware of is that all rumors they heard about me are as true as the rumors they hear about themselves. I just don’t get how people can spread all these lies? Do you really have such a pitiful and sad life that you have to be more concerned about my life than you own? It’s like “oooh c’mon let’s spread gossips about XY because my own life is so boring and miserable that I need to lift my own self-confidence by putting others down”.

Probably they don’t like you because deep inside they know that you are better then them, and they don’t know how to deal with the person you have become and what you’re up to.

Jealousy must be something really bad. For me, jealousy is a fear of not having any self-value. Than, there is ignorance. Ignorance is always followed by stupidity! Stupidity grows while you spread rumors and think that if you tell lies about me you will become a better person! Sorry honey, but I have to disappoint you! Awful people will stay awful! Learn that you have to talk TO people instead of ABOUT people! You are what comes out of your mouth, so don’t be crap.

A smart guy once said that rumors are as foolish as the people who create them and as fake as those who spread them! Don’t listen to only one side of the story, don’t rush, and don’t judge immediately without knowing the other side.

(c) pinterest

Self-value is an important thing! If you cannot love yourself you will always think that it is your fault, and that others are right about you… you will doubt yourself even though you know they lie. Build a strong self-esteem, a security defense system and be the one they envy! Envying someone is brutal for some people and because they don’t want to accept the fact that you ARE better than them, they will try to pull you down! Don’t give them the possibility to do this!

I learned that I have to be strong enough to get over those lies and rumors, of course they cause me frustration and pain but I have more pity for those who are not able to accept themselves! Adult people with children and a house… but dumb as a penguin. Living a life where I am their most popular topic gives me a higher value then they give themselves. It’s kind of miserable if your life is guided by jealousy and lies!

I hope for you that one day you will be able to move beyond this childish behavior, for the sake of all!

you know you can! 

To all those people who are unsatisfied with their own depressive life and feel the need to blame others for this: are you even aware of what you are doing to those people? Only because your life isn’t going the way you want it to go, you are extinguishing friendships and relationships!?! Poor human!!

smile, let them talk, even if it hurts you but don't let them judge over you!

Because of your unhappiness and downheartedness people suffer!! Let me tell you one thing: You are just a bunch of miserable creatures!!! No matter how badly people will treat you, be careful to never drop down to their level! Know and always remember that YOU are better than them!

Xoxo

Mati

Self-Acceptance

“How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.” – Steve Maraboli

Accept yourself as you are! Light up your life ith positive energy!

Self- compassion means you do not judge yourself neither you allow others to judge you. The most important thing is to forgive, respect, overcome insecurities, protect and love yourself.

You have to accept and to love yourself just the way you are. Release the feelings of self-hate, accept your past and forgive yourself. Love your body and treat it with respect. Forget all the insecurities you have ever felt. You are strong! You can do this!

Everyone has an intern burning energy source. Release it! You are worth it!

Live a life where you see yourself as a positive, beautiful and strong person.

Don’t sabotage yourself. You have the potential to be someone special.

Remember: You are not a target, neither a victim.

Smile! Live! Enjoy! 

How to practice self-care:

Accept and appreciate yourself as you are right now.

Take responsibility for your own life.

Do not criticize yourself neither others.

Forgive yourself when you make mistakes. It’s human!

Don’t sacrifice yourself for others! Be nice and kind towards others, but first respond to your own needs! Take care of yourself!

How to practice body-acceptance:

Comparing and criticizing yourself will have an influence on your body image.

You need to learn how to accept yourself as you are.

Remind yourself that all bodies are beautiful, including yours.

Be your own friend!

Learn how to deal with prejudices! Sometimes the modern society can be very cruel. Don’t let them destroy all of your self-esteem! Not everyone has a size zero, and honestly, nobody needs it!  Everybody needs to be fully accepted by society without being judged!

Listen to your body! It gives you a persistent flow of information! Reply to them! 

Wear clothes that make you feel good.

Do things that make you feel free.

Make choices that bring you happiness.

Beauty is everywhere around you! And especially inside of you!

Practice. Your body image will improve the harder and the more you practice! You will realize that you can push your body in the direction you want it to go.

Once you decide to practice self-compassion, your heart and life will be fulfilled with peace, love, bravery, empathy, gentleness and contentment.

Frustrations are self-productions. Get over them, and accept that everyone will be frustrated once in a while, but this frustration doesn’t need to determine your attitude towards your own self! Forgive yourself for not knowing!

I wish you a good evening :)

Xoxo

Mati

Healthy Relationship !?

“The best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other” – Dalai Lama

The relationship between a dog an his human is
one of the strongest bonds you can get!

Yasmin Mogahed once said that there is a difference between “attachment” and “love”. Attachment is about fear and dependency. It’s about love of self and not love of another. The purest love you can have is love without attachment. It’s about what you can give to someone else without claiming anything back.

Having someone by your side who accepts you
as youreally are, who understands 
you, and who is always there for you 
can save your life!

Every one of us has relationships! It doesn’t matter if we talk about loving or/and sexual relationships or friendships! Here are some advises how you can improve every relationship your in! (By Dr. John Gottman)

Improve your love situation.

Let your partner inspire you and make life decisions together!

Solve the problems you CAN solve, and don’t waste too much time on things you can’t understand or change.

Boost affection, respect and appreciation towards your partner, and show it.
Be on your partner’s side instead of turning away during times of stress. Be confident!

Develop big or small ceremonies together (having coffee together, walking your dog together,…)

Overwhelm struggles. Talk about all your dreams and fears with the goal of making peace with the problem and to strengthen the bond between you and your partner.

Every one of us knows this awful feeling of having an argument with the one you love! But instead of taking distance from each other, you should try to stay connected during an argument!

Tell your partner you need a time-out for a few minutes. Some time alone could help you to calm down!

Focus on your breath!

Be with someone who could be your
partner in crime! <3

 Be kind to yourself and to your partner. Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings and impulsive needs. Be less judgmental and achieve more perspective. You need time to feel your anger and hurt. Imagine yourself in your partner’s shoes. This will help you to react with more compassion, which is the center of all relationship.

Accepting your own imperfections is one of the first steps towards a better relationship, that means accepting your anger and your frustration.

Ask yourself what do you need right now? Are you overreacting? Choose an answer and make sure it is in peace with your core values. Connect to your partner and you will be able to find more creative solutions!

Someday, it is time to move on in a relationship. If you live in your memories and NOT in the present, the relationship will bring you more pain that happiness.

If your partner expects you to change, it causes physical, emotional and psychological pain.

But sadly, you hope that he/she will change too. This relationship holds you back, prevents that both of you grow as individuals. Probably none of you feel the same way about each other, and one puts less effort in the relationship as the other. Your fundamental values are different. This ain’t a healthy relationship!

Here is a small list of characteristics, which you will find in healthy and in unhealthy relationships:

HEALTHY AND GOOD RELATIONSHIPS CONTAIN:	UNHEALTHY AND NEGATIVE RELATIONSHIPS CONTAIN:
Equality	Intimidation
Honesty	Dishonesty
Comfort	Control
Sexual respect	Sexual abuse
Physical safety	Physical abuse
Respect	Disrespect
Independence	Dependence
humor	Hostility

So a short resume: take your time alone, daily! Make peace with your unspoken feelings and sensations. Think about the good times you had together and when you felt so close to each other. This will help you to overcome your anger and to forgive and feel more empathy.

  

have a nice sunny day!

<3 Mati
xoxo

friend or foe?

“A close friend can become a close enemy” – Ethiopian Proverb

We all have three types of friends: friends by obligation, friends for a short period of time and friends for a lifetime.

It’s kind of weird when someone asks you if you know “this” person and you have to answer him: yes, I used to know him… Don’t be sad when a friendship ends! Time goes by and you’ll move on. You have to tell yourself that even if they left you, it is not the end of the story! It is the end of their part in YOUR story.

Sometimes you have to be strong only for yourself. You have to tell you that you ARE a good person and a good friend. Friendship is worth fighting for but… you can’t be the only one fighting. Sometimes it is up to “your friends” to fight for you, and if they don’t… well then you’ll have to move on and accept that everything you gave for them was more than they were ever willing to give for you.

From the moment on you ask yourself whether you can trust someone or not, you already know that you can’t. Otherwise you wouldn’t ask yourself this question. Sometimes the person you think would take a bullet for you is actually standing behind your back…not to protect you but to protect himself… in case he needs to use you as a human shield. But, don’t lose hope, Karma will make it right…someday!

Remember that not everybody is able to handle the rough times…alone. Only a few people understand what it means to really be there for somebody. Having a good friend is so hard to find because meeting a good person has become really rare.

I’ve learned to accept that people will run from me…

I learned that some people don’t want your friendship but instead they are searching for pointless drama. In the end, you will know which people really love you. True friends will see you as you really are and they will, no matter what, always find a way to be by your side.

"you become like the 5 people you spend the
most time with"! Love you <3

If you want to get rid of this pointless drama, you have to create a better environment: STOP making excuses, playing the victim, letting society tell you how to live your life, and relying on others to achieve your own happiness but START positive thinking, believing in yourself, making your own happiness, and acknowledging your desires and wishes. I’ve wasted so many years and nerves trapped in useless friendships.

So for those who disappointed you, who blamed you and who spread lies about you, here is an instruction of “being a GOOD friend”: be REAL, honest, loyal, respectful, take care and give advices without judging!

Listen, trust, apologize and forgive!

Now it’s up to you, choose wisely, because remember…not everyone is meant to be your friend!

Enjoy the real moments with the ones you love and
who truly love you back <3 

“For all the people who talked behind my back and gave up on my friendship: I’m not even upset, hurt or angry anymore. I’m just tired of your stupid lies, and I’m tired of holding on for nothing. I’ve finally realized that I deserve better”.

Always remember who put you down and who helped you up.

Stop thinking that you’ll never find a friend like him again, and start thinking that he or she will never find a good friend like you anymore.

Stay positive, believe in yourself and
keep your head up high!

You deserve better than good! 

You’re worth it!!

Xoxo

Mati