Healthy Relationship !?

“The best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other” – Dalai Lama

The relationship between a dog an his human is
one of the strongest bonds you can get!

Yasmin Mogahed once said that there is a difference between “attachment” and “love”. Attachment is about fear and dependency. It’s about love of self and not love of another. The purest love you can have is love without attachment. It’s about what you can give to someone else without claiming anything back.

Having someone by your side who accepts you
as youreally are, who understands 
you, and who is always there for you 
can save your life!

Every one of us has relationships! It doesn’t matter if we talk about loving or/and sexual relationships or friendships! Here are some advises how you can improve every relationship your in! (By Dr. John Gottman)

Improve your love situation.

Let your partner inspire you and make life decisions together!

Solve the problems you CAN solve, and don’t waste too much time on things you can’t understand or change.

Boost affection, respect and appreciation towards your partner, and show it.
Be on your partner’s side instead of turning away during times of stress. Be confident!

Develop big or small ceremonies together (having coffee together, walking your dog together,…)

Overwhelm struggles. Talk about all your dreams and fears with the goal of making peace with the problem and to strengthen the bond between you and your partner.

Every one of us knows this awful feeling of having an argument with the one you love! But instead of taking distance from each other, you should try to stay connected during an argument!

Tell your partner you need a time-out for a few minutes. Some time alone could help you to calm down!

Focus on your breath!

Be with someone who could be your
partner in crime! <3

 Be kind to yourself and to your partner. Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings and impulsive needs. Be less judgmental and achieve more perspective. You need time to feel your anger and hurt. Imagine yourself in your partner’s shoes. This will help you to react with more compassion, which is the center of all relationship.

Accepting your own imperfections is one of the first steps towards a better relationship, that means accepting your anger and your frustration.

Ask yourself what do you need right now? Are you overreacting? Choose an answer and make sure it is in peace with your core values. Connect to your partner and you will be able to find more creative solutions!

Someday, it is time to move on in a relationship. If you live in your memories and NOT in the present, the relationship will bring you more pain that happiness.

If your partner expects you to change, it causes physical, emotional and psychological pain.

But sadly, you hope that he/she will change too. This relationship holds you back, prevents that both of you grow as individuals. Probably none of you feel the same way about each other, and one puts less effort in the relationship as the other. Your fundamental values are different. This ain’t a healthy relationship!

Here is a small list of characteristics, which you will find in healthy and in unhealthy relationships:

HEALTHY AND GOOD RELATIONSHIPS CONTAIN:	UNHEALTHY AND NEGATIVE RELATIONSHIPS CONTAIN:
Equality	Intimidation
Honesty	Dishonesty
Comfort	Control
Sexual respect	Sexual abuse
Physical safety	Physical abuse
Respect	Disrespect
Independence	Dependence
humor	Hostility

So a short resume: take your time alone, daily! Make peace with your unspoken feelings and sensations. Think about the good times you had together and when you felt so close to each other. This will help you to overcome your anger and to forgive and feel more empathy.

  

have a nice sunny day!

<3 Mati
xoxo